How to work with difficult people
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It’s Monday and for many the countdown begins to Friday from the time we punch the clock. It’s not that you don’t love your job, or that you are dreading the pile of work that awaits you, it’s that you can’t stand working with Fred. He is so annoying! He does not add any value to the company. Everything he touches falls apart. If he was not here, life would be so much more stress free.
We all likely have experienced working with a Fred in our workplace. The key is learning to work with Fred in a way that can make our day more satisfying and even enjoyable. How can this be done, especially if you aren’t in a position to manage Fred?
First, are you being direct enough? If something is bothering you, have you even tried to address it in a non-confrontational manner? Try sitting down with Fred and having a discussion to explain why his constant daily discussions about the upcoming election bother you and infringe upon your ability to do your job. Attempt to listen to him and understand why he acts the way he does. Try and find common ground and a compromise that works for both of you.
Second, take a look at your day and your surroundings. Is there anyway you can change your routine to minimize your interactions with him? Can a simple change in your day help minimize these occurrences? For instance, can you change the configuration of your office? Can you walk a different route to the printer? Can you organize your work day differently in anyway? If so, make these changes.
Third and finally, take a look at yourself. Too often we want to point fingers and blame at others but have we truly looked at ourselves on the job? Are we adding fuel to the fire by gossiping at work, or being rude in any way. Is it possible Fred feels the same way about us as we do about him? Take some time for serious self reflection. Consider sending an anonymous survey to a few of your coworkers asking them to evaluate you using one of the many 360 survey tools out there like http://www.selfstir.com. The greatest performers all realize that self improvement never ends and through self reflection and constructive criticism we can truly reach our highest potential.
Hopefully with a little attention and a proactive approach, you and Fred will become friendly coworkers. If not best friends, at least you will be able to get to work on Monday and not dread the remainder of the week :).
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